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“Sometimes people use ‘respect’ to mean ‘treating someone like a person,’ and sometimes they use ‘respect’ to mean ‘treating someone like an authority.’

And sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say, ‘If you won’t respect me I won’t respect you.’ And they mean, ‘If you won't treat me like an authority I won’t treat you like a person.’

And they think they’re being fair but they aren’t, and it’s not okay.”