My trouble is that I honestly lose the thread between deciding to say something and actually having the words leave my mouth.
Example: In college, I had intended to ask the three big guys with their girlfriends to "please stop talking quite so loudly, so everyone can enjoy the movie," but by the time I got to their seats and opened my mouth it came out, "Could you all shut the fuck up?" Honestly, I think I was more surprised than they were.
In other cases when I really /try/ to ask nicely, something about my demeanor, or their attitude, or the combination of the two, makes them defensively confrontational. I really, really try to submerge my frustration and disbelief at their level of inconsideration, try to approach things placidly, and in a way in which everyone can save face, but it rarely works out.
Or maybe I'm just remembering the times that it hasn't worked out, because they stand out.
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Date: 2007-11-08 12:14 pm (UTC)Example: In college, I had intended to ask the three big guys with their girlfriends to "please stop talking quite so loudly, so everyone can enjoy the movie," but by the time I got to their seats and opened my mouth it came out, "Could you all shut the fuck up?" Honestly, I think I was more surprised than they were.
In other cases when I really /try/ to ask nicely, something about my demeanor, or their attitude, or the combination of the two, makes them defensively confrontational. I really, really try to submerge my frustration and disbelief at their level of inconsideration, try to approach things placidly, and in a way in which everyone can save face, but it rarely works out.
Or maybe I'm just remembering the times that it hasn't worked out, because they stand out.